OHSOLADYLIKE | Redefining how to be a 'lady'

On Being Thankful

I am not going to lie. It is difficult for me to feel thankful around any time of year, let alone thanksgiving (Canadian) or when the holidays begins to roll around, when the circumstances of my life point me towards anger or denial.

My parents are unhappily divorced just as they were unhappily married. I fight with one of my sisters all the time and she doesn’t like to listen to my advice. The other one is about to be a confused preteen who no one will understand anymore because hormones. My family never spends much time together anymore largely because no one can stand five minutes of each other.

Yet when I was growing up my father was my idol. I even remember saying when I’m grown up I’m going to marry my daddy and then I had to be told that Daddy was already married to mommy so that couldn’t work.

Now its hard to look at my father square in the eye now knowing the pain he has caused my mother.

As for my mother, who I sided with and obeyed for almost my whole life, I no longer have patience. There is no excuse for wallowing in self pity and failing to take ownership of one’s own actions while placing blame on everyone around you instead.

So I say again, it is definitely difficult for me at times to be thankful. It is far easier for me to simply complain about how unfair life is and to compare my situation and shortcomings with those more fortunate than I. I smile and also ache inside every time I see a happy family walk nearby.

But I will ruminate on what I can be thankful about and despite what I’ve said, I am still thankful for my life, for my love and for my family.

1. I am still thankful for my mother who nurtured me and raised me until I could stand on my own two feet. We have many differences now but I miss you everyday.

2. I am still thankful for my father who helped me become more understanding. I know you’ve made mistakes but hope in life time can heal all wounds. I will never forget that I was once daddy’s little girl.

3. I am thankful for my sisters whom I love with all my heart. When I was sick you brought me pho and fed me from your spoon. When my belly was unwell you rubbed it for me. I will always love you two, even when you’re being dumb and stupid and naive. I will always love you two.

4. I am thankful for my loving partner who has been my pillar all these trying years. The one person I can always rely on, fall into and melt away into oblivion. You’re not the same boy I met at 14. How we’ve grown.

5. I’m thankful for my Bagel – a source of furry fun on days where I feel empty made whole again by kind kisses and dog drool and more. There is something like wisdom in your beautiful old eyes now framed by wrinkles and greys, my friend.

6. I am thankful for my health, for the roof over my head, the food on my table and the clothes on my back. I am grateful for I still remember when all we ate was congee.

This post if anything, is a reminder to myself and to anyone out there who has experienced heart-ache in life that no matter what, there is always something or someone in life to be thankful for. This is the medicine that will make you strong again.

Happy thanksgiving and don’t forget to really breathe and think upon what you are truly grateful for in life.

Final Blooms

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The final blooms of the summer season have long passed but I get to keep them alive on my person with this awesome floral print dress (Zara) which Franny and I shot at the tail end of summer. Its definitely not a trend ‘of this season’ but you know what, once spring hits I can’t wait to revisit this dress. Just add a blazer and some cute booties and you should be good to go!

I’ve got some projects lined up that I’m excited to share with you all once I’m done.
Hint: guns, smoke, and sophisticated sexy. Stay tuned remember to stay #ladylike

XOXO
The Lady
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Outfit Details:

- Lace skirt – Spoof on Queen Street W
– Zara floral print dress
– Michael Kors watch
– Cecerre nude lace up heels, Jessica Simpson
– Heels – Steve Madden

Photography by Franny Alder, follow her on tumblr!

Marooned in the City

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A walk around the city in this pretty maroon dress from @Aritzia and I’m once again inspired to talk about how much I love my city. We shot these in and around my neighbourhood in the Queen West area.

Toronto is my hometown.

This is where I grew up and this is the city where I learned to be me, to be independent and to be original.
So naturally, it is the backdrop to every ohsoladylike.com post.

Stay on this journey with me and let me share with you my home.

XOXO
The Lady
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Outfit Details:

- Lace skirt – Spoof on Queen Street W
– Wilfred dress
– Yellow gem necklace, ebay
– Clear box clutch, ebay
– Heels – Steve Madden

Photography by Justin Vo, follow him on here!

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